so, in a slightly different direction, but no less controversial (i think), i've been thinking about love and opening up this morning.
people i know close up & lock their heart in a little box by the door. they can never love anyone, and they are distant and consequently silent, even in the middle of 'friends.'
when you open up to someone and love them, you are in a sense baring a raw wound, something really sensitive. you open yourself to criticism that can really hurt, you open yourself to loss.
there's so much more to lose when you love someone, your heart will be wrung and might be broken. but there's so much more to win, so much more to life.
while your heart is padlocked it is changing, becoming more unpenetrable and untouchable in a way, without air or light.
thoughts? why do people do this? fear? too much idealism?
oh, look at all the lonely people//where do they all come from?
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NOOOO WAY.
Sam, we've got to stop this... it's starting to scare me...
This morning in my journal: "I've been thinking a lot about love..."
Seriously.
About love and opening up and stuff, I mean.
But as to the topic at hand...
Keep in mind that not everyone has trouble opening up. I would say that I'm faulted in the oposite direction... I'll tell anyone anything. And I tend to love most everyone instantly and often with a ferocity I'm not even aware of until someone else insults them.
It's gotten me into a lot of trouble, actually, but I wouldn't say that humans in general have trouble opening up. Or maybe I'm just weird. It's highly possible. :-)
lol, we're just cool like that.
nono, yeah, i didn't mean to say humans as a whole struggle with it, i just meant there are some who go through their life without loving.
and i'd agree with beth, i'd say it's a strength, not a weakness. the trouble just goes along with it sometimes.
classic enfp, to love easily! i am so on the up-and-up about this whole personality thing now.
Well, maybe. Some people find it annoying.
So why do some people close up? I know people like that, too. They are so difficult to deal with.
I guess for some it might be that they simply don't like the emotional confrontation that comes from getting really close to someone. It makes them uncomforatable. There are those who are just happier in the world of concrete, relitivly insignificant topics of conversation and activities.
LOL... we're both on right now, arn't we?
CLASSIC enfp move. to post comments on my blog right when i'm not looking.
that makes sense.
it's kind of true for life. without risk and pain, it's hard to get places.
'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all...
Hmm, it's something I've been thinking about more recently too. Everyone thinks I'm shy when they first meet me, because I'm quiet. But with my friends, I open up a lot more. However, I always seem to have trouble expressing myself. I mean, even if I'm willing to open up, when I'm talking to someone it's hard to get my point accross in a way they'll get it. and then they're always like, 'I understand' and somehow it's like they can't. When I'm writing, I feel like I can actually get it all out and feel like people get it. Just how it is for me.
I think a lot of people are scared of getting hurt, esp. those who have been hurt before. You're right, they're think they're exposing themselves too much, and they don't want to lose anything or get hurt more/again. I definitely think fear is the biggest factor. I used to have some really close friends, then I lost a couple of them. I got closer to some of my other friends after that, but I still fear opening up too much. Something in my head like, 'why would they care about you?' and it's rediculous because I know the friends I have now love me, but it's still there. It's so sad though when people shut themselves up and try to go through life by themselves, because they end up at the end without any close friends. Even though I'm not close to some people who used to be my friends, I'm glad I opened up because it taught me a lot about life, and myself.
hmmmmm, that is interesting, i can certainly identify with that, yes. i'm still very quiet sometimes around people i fear will reject me.
homeschooling has its pros and cons....
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